I have been through the dating scene a bunch of times very deeply, I have tried and experienced so many websites some were amazing some were a flop.. i have seen many stories from my sister and my friends.. i have talked to a lot of people as research in to what to do and what not to do to be able to find friends/lovers its all about these simple steps.. if you use my steps i know you can be saved from being around the wrong crowd.
How to spot a fake profile or person on any social media account
1) Check out their photos
--> Start with their profile photo and if you see one or two photos be suspicious.. yes some people don't like to post photos of themselves.. but this can not be the case for everyone.. if the photo looks too good to be true than it probably is.. if the photo looks like a model that looks really perfect whether it is a male or a female it is probably fake .. and their is a reason they don't want to show their real face.. If they have a picture of a character from a movie.. their favorite pet.. or just random this will give you insight
If they have tons of photos.. you can get to know them and their life based on their photos.. usually from these you can tell where they like to go on vacation.. their hobbies.. their past gf/bf's , their family.. close friends.. read the comments.. read how they respond to what has been written to them.. do they lash out and get in to tons of fights but claim they are a peaceful person.. do they have a relationship with their parents.. this can really show you the family dynamic they came from.. broken family.. divorced.. widowed.. etc.. You can tell so much about a person by the way they heave on social media.. just have to look and take everything with a grain of salt
If their is never a photo.. their is lots of activity on the account but never any photos.. this is another huge red flag.. they are obviously making it clear they don't want people to know who they are. Look at who is tagged in the photos.. if the same people keep popping up.. then their may be something with them.. whether they were an ex.. someone who likes them .. or a brother or sister..
2) Check out their friends
You will never be able to tell who the person is personally by checking out their friends and making assumptions .. but you can do a quick scan of their friends.. sometimes you will get an idea of what they are looking for to be surrounding them .. You may not think that this is a good thing to check out but it really is.. usually the profile will show 10-15 friends all random.. it will show they may like plus sized women.. thin models.. men.. young girls who are just 18 or who look around 18.. sometimes you can see what they believe in .. one guy i liked had a whole friends list on his personal account of juggalos.. i knew this because every name had an abbreviated name... like a nickname.. this disturbed me because that is something i don't believe in.
3) Check how often they post
You can spot a fake account if they are posting hardly anything and very wide spread.. look at the about if they don't fill anything in on the profile.. this really leads to one conclusion . they are in to much of a hurry looking for something specific.. like just sex or a hookup that they just don't put any effort in to their profile
4) Check out what they post
If the person only posts nudes of themselves. this will show you what they want.. if they post about just jokes and no pictures of their life.. this will lead you to different ideals of them .. and should make you question them .some people are private i get that.. but social media is huge its like our second skin.. people who are editing their life are really sending small signals you just have to be wise to look at them and not just jump in .
5) Messaging ..
Are they willing to give you their personal cell phone number.. or home number.. can you text the person.. skype them.. see them on cam.. see them on facetime.. Do they have excuses when you say hey i am really not on this site much can you just text me or give me a call.. watch what their excuses are.. if they say things like ohhhh i cant .. oooh but here is fine .. but no reason .. you really have to look at this as editing their life.. because they have a gf? wife? bf? this really shows you that they really are not serious..
6) Figure out what you are truly on the certain website for
Are you on the site for a hook up.. ??? Or are you on the site for a real relationship?? A casual relationship.. these all have different understated rules that i took so much time to research through experience to find out what really happens in the dating world no one is talking about .. If you are looking for a hook up.. you don't need to ask questions.. or any person questions .
7) Ask them personal questions
The best way to get to know someone is to ask them questions about their life.. their past.. casual talking .. not like your some physiologist.. but have some kind of conversation and if the conversation is .. hey ,, hey .. how r u ? good? me 2 .. good.. and then it dies out this is something that is really not going to go anywhere if that something you are looking for.. if you are looking for a hook up .. the conversation rarely in my opinion turns personal.. and you usually don't need to get to know them well as they really are not going to be in your life to long
8)Don't get caught up in the spam messages..
If someone messages you and they are head over heels for you from them just looking at your photos.. you will be able to tell because they will be obsessive in their messaging .. they will message and message and message .. until you respond then it opens a can of worms.. honestly no one is this obsessive over just looking at someones photos.. i have had much experience where men send me messages looking for a relationship because they think you look beautiful every second of everyday and you have a million moments to throw away listening to them tell you how wonderful you are and how they would like to meet you in person.. i have fell in this trap before because i thought it was real.. turns out 99% of the time they are only looking for a hookup
9) Be real on your profile
Never claim you are something you are not on your profile.. never say you went to some school and finished some degree when you didn't... Don't tell people you have a few kids if they don't live with you .. or they are full time with your ex.. Don't show people pictures of kids that don't exist.. This will only get you in to trouble .. explaining things that you really are only wasting their time and your time.. start with the truth .. maybe not the full truth until they get to know you but don't make yourself look bigger than you are.. people make assumptions very quickly no matter what you do.. so make it a great profile You don't to start a friendship off with lies
10) Check out when the profile was made
This is a classic sign of someone who gets banned for a range of breaking the sites terms.. always check out when they made their profile. if it says yesterday.. or this morning.. you should ask them why did they just get to make a profile today.. are they new to the site? Or did they have a ton of profiles.. that god banned.. people reported.. they were putting offensive material on them.. you really need to use common sense.. you have to realize that you will be going through and sifting through a lot of bad people.. people looking for the wrong things.. people who have mental issues.. or a million other issues without telling you
You need to be aware that the world is a scary place.. if the profile is showing you bondage and posts about bondage.. and you don't like that sort of thing .. don't bother messaging them.. they are probably not for you.. You need to look for a person who you think will be like minded like yourself.. I have so much experience with dating.. i have gone on a lot of dates.in my time.. and spent so much time checking out people because of my own trust issues because of my bad past.. I'm not going to tell you that these people who have serious issues are going to be a big red blob right across your screen but i will say that common sense if your best friend ..
Think about what stands out to you on their profile.. can you accept it .. do you like it .. can you live with yourself if you choose to be with this person .. can you live with their past. their current situation? Do you want to go on a date with this person.. do you like how they write. about themselves.. its all about preference and choice.. i hope you go out in the dating world head first.. not heart first.. i hope you find what you are looking for.. but be really choosy .. you need to protect yourself first.. without getting date raped.. played.. or cheated on
If you would like me to answer your dating questions send me an email i will be happy to help
Until next time
27 year old Mom of 3 under 5 (2 boys 1 girl), TTC baby #4, Married to my soul mate, Photographer, nail artist, amazon reviewer, fashion addict, Looking to make a postive impact on this world one story at a time. I am looking to inspire people with love and peace