At this point in my life i took the bus to work .. i lived 2 hours away from where i worked so i always got up early .. i did my normal commute on this specific day .. i was 18 at the time.. and social media was just starting at this point .. so dating apps and sites where you could hook up with random people without strings were really coming out.. So i decided to try a few of them.. their was some fun their was some hell and their is some i still laugh about to this day.
On this day i was half way through my travels to work.. and this guy behind me had tapped me on the shoulder to ask where something specific was in the area so i took out my earphones and i told him.. then i put them back in my ears and continued my trip to work.. i didn't think anything of it .. random people ask me questions all the time.. they see im a nice person.. so when i had gotten home i had a few messages in my inbox on these dating sites.. so i checked them .. wasn't really anything interesting .. i flirted a bit .. when on msn a bit and then went to study in college.. A few weeks later i had gotten this odd message on one of my social medias saying thank you for the directions and he was wondering if we could go on a date.. ??? this was completely odd to me as i didn't really remember this person .. so since my mind was hazy since i was super busy .. so i agreed to go on a date with this man.. We then planned a few days later .. We decided we would just be low key go to dinner and then hang out at my house since i really wasn't their much . We had a lot of fun on this date.. he was sweet and funny .. it was a nice break from what i normally was doing day to day in my life.. One thing led to another and we ended up having sex .. it was fun .. didn't have any issues.. He then went his separate way and so did i .. didn't think of anything was wrong.. I didn't hear from him for a few months.. i was so busy that it didn't bother me .. i never was a clingy person.. if i had fun with someone i let it go.. if their was more then sure i would do more.. if their was a connection.. but most of them were friends and i wasn't upset One day out of the blue he had messaged me and it was a normal conversation .. hey how r u .. things of that nature .. then he said you gave me an STD that's why i never called you again.. .. now let me explain i was shocked.. and blown away.. i had always been super clean with myself .. i never had any kind of std . i knew exactly who i was sleeping with and when .. and i always made sure they were clean before anything happened.. i felt that as a young woman i needed to protect myself against anything that could damage my future.. so i knew i was very very clean.. and he kept up with his story about how this was something he was so upset about.. and i kept questioning him and.. finally after about half an hour of fumbling through the questions.. he said .. i just didn't like you.. i was devestated. because i felt like i had this massive news thrown at me trying to figure out my whole sexual life.. and what did i do to this person.. i felt horrible.. but when i got down to the truth he hung up the phone on me and we never spoke again. In this i have learned that men will make up any story they can to get away from you.. for whatever reason .. most of the time it is for another woman.. or that they didn't like something about you that was minimal.. never take this to heart.. i am sharing my dating stories to give a voice to all those girls and guys out their going thorugh these terrible dates.. my advice to you is hold your head up high and keep moving.. if you are clean and have proof to back that up when you give that to your sexual partners.. you will have nothing to hide and the liars will come out.. in this case they did.. Hope you enjoyed my latest installment of my worst dates.. more to come .. let me know what your worst date was ? XOXO LOLA R |
Lola28 year old Mom of 3 under 6 (2 boys 1 girl), TTC baby #4, Married to my soul mate, Photographer, nail artist, amazon reviewer, fashion addict, Looking to make a postive impact on this world one story at a time. I am looking to inspire people with love and peace Archives
June 2017
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