As men and women in the dating world we all have stories of the untold crazy dates that we all go through.. I've got many since I was looking for something specific and that was to settle down here is my horrible story that will make you cringe at the fact that guys are really like that!!! Hard to believe I know lol
I call him Crackberry Guy
I was about 22 years old and I had my first son , this was on a break me and my husband had for about 6 months .. and I thought maybe it would be good if I change my surroundings and go and try some dating.. just casual.. I know in the end I wanted serious so I looked for people who wanted the same things I did.. I had this mutual friend I knew for a long time so I trusted his expertise in how good this friend he was recommended to me to try and go on a date. I was nervous and unsure so I just talked to this guy over Skype and text and phone calls for about a week.. I assumed since the conversation was pretty good and we connected on all levels that it would be nice if he came over for dinner and drinks and maybe a movie.. I told him that if the connection was their I would sleep with him .. but it would take me time to let my guard down so please don't expect me to be a one night stand. He agreed and told me I didn't need to worry he wasn't the guy to just sleep with someone and leave. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and agreed to dinner.
We agreed he would come over to my house on a Friday night around 9 when my son had gone to sleep. so during that whole week I was nervous so I cleaned my house top to bottom, at the time I was living in a one bedroom basement suite, I had 5 roommates upstairs in the 4 bedrooms upstairs. He met me at the door and things were immediately awkward , he seemed kinda weird , I tried to have a small conversation and he seemed to shove me off and kept checking his blackberry. he was so interested in his phone it was annoying and I didn't want to say .. "Could you please put that down", I was to nice .. or at least I tried to be lol . Finally about 3 hours in the date he decided to put his phone down which I thought finally hes done work.. since he claimed he was a professional Dj so safe to say I tried to let it go, but ... then he picked up his laptop :( ugh bust already as I thought lol
He finally put that away at about 2 hours ... .it was about 1pm by this time and I was completely bored out of this date and knew it truly sucked.. so I was thinking hmm since this guy was such an ass how can I make this date go faster and less stupid. so I said lets watch a movie .. he agreed but their was a problem.. as soon as I took the DVD out of the case to put in the DVD player.. he flipped and said "DONT TAKE IT OUT OF THE CASE THAT WAY .. YOU DONT KNOW WHAT YOUR DOING".. He was absolutely pissed that I apparently didn't take it out the way he wanted.. I felt this was very odd to bitch about since he didn't really know me and I didn't really think their was a certain way to take a DVD out of the case, He seemed bothered for awhile . The movie went on and he suddenly decided to open up a little and chat about the things that meant good things to him.
Suddenly out of nowhere he decided to tickle me.. but this wasn't your normal tickling .. he was tickling really hard around my ribs.. I laughed to try and not make so much of a fuss I couldn't wait until he left.. I said listen I am crawling in to bed at 4 am .. if you want to come you can .. if not you can go home.. He loudly pronounced that he could go somewhere else.. so I said ok then why don't you.. he said no no I will stay a bit.. He asked me point blank if he could have a blowjob.. so I agreed .. I didn't agree cause he and I had a great connection I agreed cause.. well .. honestly I was horny .. I put all this work and was getting a slap in the face so why not use him before he leaves.. no shame in the game right . lol
I did my work and this guy came in less than 5 minutes couldn't hold it at all...then when I went for the rest of the "fun" wink wink .. he pushed my head away and said "nope that's enough" I was shocked I was like wow this is it???? seriously.. He proceeded to grab his blackberry from the side of the bed he was laying on and texted people.. was on facebook.. I layed their still dressed and so bored with this date.. so annoyed.. and kinda hurt this guy was such an ass.. as I watched him in the dark spend hours on his phone.. he ignored me the whole time.. not saying a word. acted like I was completely invisible. He fell asleep with his blackberry in his hands and held on to it and slept with it all night lmfao.
When he woke up at 7 am .. he jumped out of bed.. got his laptop bag and got his cell phone.. and left .. it was such a relief to have this looser leave my home. I should have said something very sooner but I didn't I wanted to see if he would change. I called my friend who told me this guy would be great for me a few days later.. and he was telling me what happened on my HORRIFIC date.. he told me that the guy called him the day after our date and told him.. that my house was a horrible mess.. I had tons of dishes in the sink... my house was weird (I lived in a half a million dollar home in the estates section of my city), he said that we slept together and I was horrible.. he said I then threw him out in the morning.. WHAT A LIAR ...
Here is the kicker.. He said I wear granny panties lol.. AWWWW baby you seriously think as a woman I wear those lol.. here is a picture to prove to the world.. what is exactly under my pants why u ask .. cause I have no shame.. I am way to honest
My advice if I could go back in time and re visit this time in my life.. I would be strong and tell him exactly what I thought as soon as he acted this way..
I found out.. he played many women the same derogitoritive way .. I also found out he wasn't a dj .. he had no job.. and just moved here from BC.. Funny how the story changes when you talk to their friends.. Another X on my stupid guys list lol
Stay Strong..and never let a guy treat you as worthless.. until the next story XOXO LOLA
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1. How long does it take you to get ready for a date?
2. What's your idea of a perfect first date?
d) Adventurous dates
Answer: I think the best way to get to know someone is to have a conversation , a dialogue about anything , their is tons of things in life to talk about why not sit down at a nice restaurant , even if that means a table by the beach with corn dogs or a burger , and just talk about your likes and your dislikes. .I'm sure they have questions for you and you have questions for them.
3. What would you gravitate more towards to wear on a date ...
Answer: I always go with a dress.... I think a dress works in any situation date wise.. you can make it super casual or you can make it dressed up. for me its easy and simple
4. On the date of your choice what makeup would you wear
a) Girl next door
b) Smokey and sexy
c) Bold lip
Answer: I go with smokey and sexy and sometimes I change it up and go with a simple eye and bold lip
5. Your date says you have half an hour to be ready what do you do?
Put my regular face on but speed it up to looking natural.. I can do it in 15-20 mins
6. Your date asks for the bill, do you ...
a) Offer to pay - with actual meaning to pay
b) Make a fake fuss - with no intention of paying
c) Expect him to pay straight away
Answer: If he asked you on the date then he should pay, if you ask than you pay.. if you both agree split it
7. Do you go out with him again?
Yes if their is a lot of chemistry
8. It's time to say goodbye you really like your date do you ...
c) Kiss on the cheek
e) Full on smooch
Answer: hug and kiss.. sometimes a more serious kiss but that's it.. I will text him later and see how he felt about the date.. even if chemistry is their .. don't give everything in right away .
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I never respond to haters but since the last few months of the crazy behavior's of some haters , I feel like I need to give you some love. Everyone needs love and you should hear mine.
Here is a list of things your HATE DOESNT DO FOR ME!
---->>> Hating me doesn't make me want to crawl in a ball and cry myself to sleep
----->>> Doesn't make me hurt no matter what you say
----->>> Doesn't make me want to be suicidal, depressive or angry
------>>>Doesn't make me want to get even or revengeful
Here is a list of things HATE MAKES ME WANT TO DO!
------->> I am very secure in my sexuality and my body so telling me I am fat , I am a whore , I am whale, I am a rhino, I am huge, etc. etc. etc.. Makes me know that you seriously have a problem with appreciating any other woman's or mans body in the world.. how sad for u!
------>>> When you hate on me and critique my work or my lifestyle or my choice of anything I choose in life.. know that I don't have to tell the world anything.. I don't have to let you know that this is my every step and get everyone's approval.. If I want to drink until I am 90 everyday . who's right is it to say I AM NOT ALLOWED.. unless you are in my most inner circle of family and friends know this I DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR OPIOION!!!!
------>>>> Bullying only makes me strive for bigger and better things.. it does not make me weak , sad or in any way upset, If you sit behind a computer all day and let people know what you think they should really know your nasty words.. chances are you don't have friends, you are very unsocial and maybe just maybe you truly hate your life
---->>> I don't need your love or praise!! This is why when you hate me know that I have so much love for you and I have hope for you , maybe one day you will learn to spread more love that drama and quit trying to knock people down , just to make you feel better.
----->>> I will always follow my dreams, I will always love myself, I will always strive for bigger dreams, I will always keep my morals and believes despite the hate.
Spread peace not hate.. as you can see I am unaffected by comments , they are only words that come from people I don't know.. and will never know .. and don't want to get to know .
------->>>Haters will always multiply in to millions .. I am strongly aware of this.. but this will never stop me no matter how many of you their are
You should start by loving yourself.. getting through your daily life and your daily struggles and demons. Everyone has a past just like everyone has a future.. you cant make choices for people. Doesnt matter if my hair is purple, blonde, or green.. I never will ask my haters my every choice about daily life.
I write this blog .. about makeup and my mommy channel.. because makeup is my everything.. it makes me feel beautiful.. but also no makeup does. This is my passion and my lifes work. I love photography, and makeup.. I will always put those first in my life.. I will always draw strength from the people I choose to be around me.
Love me or hate me.. if you choose hate at least I know no matter what I am always being thought about
1. What's a high-end makeup product you want to get?
Mac - Kelly and Sharon Osborne collection .. another collection that has been sold out in my city for awhile.
2. What's a low-end makeup product you want to get?
Fergie Wet n Wild Collection... it was sold out in my whole city since December
3. What's a product you own, but want to get more of?
Elf, bh cosmetics, city and color cosmetics, Chanel, Maybelline, etc. etc.. I can go on forever.. I am makeup obsessed and love trying new things.
4. What's a product you want, but will probably never get?
macs every collection.. defiantly not going to happen lol just costs way to much money
5.What's a product you are planning/wanting to get because of raves from other beauty gurus?
so many to list.. I love Trisha Paytas.. she is someone I watch all the time and would try anything she loves.. I trust her opinion.
I tag all of you to do this tag
28 year old Mom of 3 under 6 (2 boys 1 girl), TTC baby #4, Married to my soul mate, Photographer, nail artist, amazon reviewer, fashion addict, Looking to make a postive impact on this world one story at a time. I am looking to inspire people with love and peace